It is so important for young people to have a space where they can share their fears and anxieties and talk about "stuff" they cannot do with their parents.  Growing up years are probably the most difficult years of our lives, and yet we as parents sometimes feel that, well, we got on with life - so must our children!  

Yet, the environment has changed dramatically! Even though some struggling blocks might always stay the same from generation to generation, the technological explosion over the past few years has changed the way in which a child sees him/herself and most of all - the way they communicate with their world.  

The exposure to bullying and abuse through social media has become a reality in this generation.  Social Media can literally make or break a child.  

It shapes the way a child sees him/herself and can build their self confidence and self esteem or completely knock it down.  When this and other traumatic events like divorce in the family, or suicide is contemplated and life becomes too much for a child to deal with on his/her own, or the family is unable to cope any longer, counselling can form part of the support system and help to provide a safe and trusting space where feelings, doubts and fears are addressed and put in perspective and coping techniques are explored.

COUNSELLING - CHILDREN, TEENS & PRE ADOLESCENTS

FAMILY COUNSELLING

Life does not happen in a vacuum and we do not exist in this world on our own.  Daily interaction with our family members is what our existence is built on.  

The actions and behaviour of one family member affects the behaviour and actions of the entire family.  This forms part of our "System" - If the system is toxic, everybody suffers.  Blame is assigned and unhappiness abound!  How do we deal with this?  We learn to communicate, we learn to accept and forgive, we learn tolerance for our loved ones' shortcomings and we try to better ourselves.  

This is sometimes easier said than done.  With Family Counselling, I try to create an environment where feelings and attitudes are shared without fear of retribution and without hurting others.  

The counselling space helps each member of the family to feel comfortable in the knowledge that honesty and the willingness to work together to form a better, stronger bond between siblings and parents and other main players in the system will make everyone happier and more loving and content within the system.

COUPLES COUNSELLING

Couples therapy is a means of resolving problems and conflict that couples are not able to handle effectively on their own. It involves both partners sitting down with a trained professional to discuss their thoughts and feelings.

The aim is to help you gain insight and a better understanding of yourself and your partner and recognize negative patterns within the relationship.

I provide a neutral safe space and use my skills to carefully feedback the dynamics that I observe within the session and guide clients to a mutually respectful understanding of each other's experiences.

In couples counselling, you gain new perspectives about each other and the way you relate, and you also learn new ways of being together.

Couples counselling includes "skills work" to help you actually do something different, as well as helping you explore your feelings and thoughts with your partner.

INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING

It is easy to go through life if nothing ever bad happens to us or if there are no stumbling blocks to overcome.  

But unfortunately, this is not the way life works at all.  

Being human means being vulnerable and exposed to all kinds of emotions, from feelings of  disappointment, feeling depressed, experiencing loss and so many more.

We face many difficulties during our lifetime and sometimes it overwhelms us and we feel unable to cope.  

Whatever these difficulties are that have such a big impact on your life, counselling will help you gain perspective and insight, giving you back control of your life and take charge of your own happiness and wellbeing once again.

BEREAVEMENT COUNSELLING

"The weird, weird thing about devastating loss is that life actually goes on. When you're faced with a tragedy, a loss so huge that you have no idea how you can live through it, somehow, the world keeps turning, the seconds keep ticking."

James Patterson, Angel

This quote just about sums it up for me.  We are left breathless with pain after losing someone close to us, yet we are expected to continue living in this world.  

How do you do that?  There is no one answer - grief is a unique experience. But taking hold of someones' hand, and being in a space where you can allow yourself to grief at your own pace, and in your own way, can help you find meaning in your loss, and the courage to take part in life once again.

PARENTING PLANS

A parenting plan provides an agreement and outline to assist the parents of the child in meeting the child's needs and interest after separation and divorce.  

The intention is to resolve issues relating to parental responsibility and related issues with regards to the minor child concerned.

The parenting plan regulates their future conduct in respect of the child both between them as co-parents, as well as between parent and child.

MAGDA VISSER

COUNSELLING SERVICES

MAGDA VISSER

COUNSELLING SERVICES

'Tis a gift to be simple, 'Tis a gift to be free,

'Tis a gift to come down, Where we ought to be

And when we find ourselves, In the place that's right

'Twill be in the valley, Of love and delight. -Nineteenth-Century Shaker Hymn

'Tis a gift to be simple, 'Tis a gift to be free,

'Tis a gift to come down, Where we ought to be

And when we find ourselves, In the place that's right

'Twill be in the valley, Of love and delight. -Nineteenth-Century Shaker Hymn

MAGDA VISSER

COUNSELLING SERVICES